The Only Way For A Better Life Is All Up To You
The majority of the people I have encountered in life so far want to live the life with lots of abundance such as money, love, happiness, power and other personal purposes.
The problem is that, a lot of those people are stuck with their dreams and fantasies. They want to be someone and attain things they do not know if it is going to be grateful for them. They also do not anticipate the consequences that will surely be in their way.
They think they are tough, but honestly aren’t aware that toughness isn’t enough when something goes wrong. This is because, some have few mental attitude issues and not willing to adapt some changes towards their personal development need, growth, change or enhancement. They are often so attached in their old habits and methods of thinking of doing instead of being.
As I always say, we are all human beings and not human doing. These are kind of persons who are willing to do everything for a change, but often fail. The result, they get frustrated and have difficulties of achieving anything they desire for a better life they desire. Often, most people seek answers and questions from others towards what they hear, instead of learning the process and asking questions to their own selves first. If you want to have a grateful life, then the formula is simple. It is simply the matter of willingness.
Start with your own being first, then once you have changed your way of thinking and identify what you have to develop in you, then you can start doing possible things you never imagine. Just like me years ago, who hated reading books, who do not know how to speak and write English. I was once a person, who could not imagine writing hundreds of articles like this post that you are reading right now, which can be viewed by hundreds of people 24/7 globally, day in and day out. Is that not an attitude, desire, motivation and a willingness that had changed my being and mental awareness in able to do things I could not?
Well, the formula is simple. It’s the (BE, DO, Have) formula that I have discovered, studied and consistently practice!
It is the “BEING, DOING and HAVING.”
Below are few great self-questions to ask about yourself. Perhaps these may be easy questions for you, but I assure you that, these are overwhelming questions to answer. I have asked these questions to myself before, and found out that almost all my answers were much deeper than I’ve expected. These are important questions, as this is can be your starting point, your fundamental base line, which will lead you finding your better way of a life path, as your guide.
Here are some examples:
- What do you really want in this life?
- Who are you, what identity would you like people to see and recognize in you?
- What skills and talent do you have, that others need which you can share?
- What is your real passion that will excite you throughout the day and in the long run?
- What are your fears, would you delegate or will be strong enough to face it?
- What can you really do and enjoy most doing for a long-term even you don’t get paid for it?
- What is your most important value? Is it personal growth, love, career, money, health, spiritual, power or all of them?
- What are your goals, short terms and long terms, will you be able to write it down, adapt the process or will you keep dreaming and hopping?
- What are your strengths and weakness, will you focus more on your strengths or on your weakness?
- What are your worries and concerns about love, career, money, emotions and personal issues, do you know how to take control of it?
- And most importantly, ask yourself if you have the willingness to change for your being?
- Will you be able to adapt the change and the progress while you learn how you think smart, react, and the way you behave?
These are questions I’ve asked myself years ago after thinking and re-writing, re-organizing my plans, goals, actions and re evaluating my answers on a paper over and over. You can use the above questions as a pattern for you to evaluate yourself being. I am sure it will be overwhelming, but don’t just give up yet, as your answers will be the key to have a grateful life, you could not imagine, just like my story above, who was innocent.
The questions above were questions about myself that I needed to be where I am now as a human being. This was the missing link for me to step forward, to be on the right paths that were connected to what I have to be first (being) before I can attain and do things I wanted. I couldn’t do it if I haven’t started evaluating myself and knowing who I truly am. I had to change my “being” part to be able to “do” things I wanted to do and to eventually attain. The above questions I’ve asked were questions that have concerned me so much, which are great for you to begin with, to know yourself much better.
I believe, in able to know where and what you honesty want in the future, knowing your true passion and writing goals that you will habitually must love doing are the best way to start before moving further. I also want you to take note that, not only knowing all the answers are great, but taking actions is a part of it jump-start your life.
To have the life you want to live in, in a successful way, a lot of combinations must fit to work together consistently, just like a lock where you need to find the right key combinations. We always have to be able to adapt the change. When it comes to family or any relationship, we should be understandable, committed, and be responsible to take care of our self and our love ones. It is all about us anyway. In addition to that, we must be able to take some time to practice and educate our mental consciousness, attitude, and physical health. Aside from socializing with other people, it is also good to reach other resources for your own good. Just be careful who you talk to and be selective.
I believe we really need to educate ourselves in able to have mental growth, just like our immune system which is always work in progress, same as your body, mind and life. Do not always rely on emotions that does not think which cause to appear our reactions. It all starts with our mind.
If we get use of habitual lies, ignoring the reality, not accepting the change, living our pride, constantly letting our emotions act instead of using our mind and wisdom, then I’m sure that you will constantly finish with regret, unhappy, disappointments and frustrations.
So face it, learn everyday and live the reality!
No one else will fix and will give you the best way to live your life, only you will.
No one else will ever fully complete your desires, only you will.
No one else will ever give the joy and happiness you want to feel, only you will.
Your boss can not make you rich, only you will.
Not everyone can take care of you 24/7, only you can.
No one else can create a better future for you, only you can.
(It will also benefit you if you let God direct you and make him the center of your life and not the other way around.)
That is why; the only way for a better life is all up to you.
Eventually, you may meet new friends, have family or relatives who may support you that will make you feel remarkable or great. You might also find joy and happiness in your current love life. You might be satisfied with your career or financial income or might be living your ideal life at these days, where everything seems to be great. However, not, until you have completely changed, recognize, learn, to grow and be smart. You really need action the process that you need to face. There are no short cuts. That is transparent truth you have to see and realize.
It all has to start with who and what you are. It doesn’t matter what material things, how much or no money you have. You simply need to change your thinking towards yourself.
Seek what you need, not what you were instructed by same people like you. Think big, seek for mentors not advisers, seek for persons who are engaged towards what you are doing. Appreciate all the best things that are around your life, the people around you, and those values you are committed at, not always on negative things, as this may be symbols that may turn your journey from the good and worst.
Leave all that you don’t need and people that surrounds you that are not helping you. Keep educating yourself for growth and keep things you really need in life. Also hold tight to all that are good to you and never ever let go. Seek the truth and reality in life, be transparent.
Can you imagine how many blessings you will have in the run if keep on doing this?
This is your life! You have the control to live your life the way you want it. Ask for the better future for you to attract it to your life. Learn how to live it and take control. It’s all up to you how you want to have a better life at all. No one else can make things possible, only you will
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