It Takes Two To Tango In Any Commitment
~By Paul Doria
Being committed is a commitment as well-being married to someone is a commitment, devotion and a companionship that takes two to be as one. We already heard that before. Nevertheless, what does it mean and how does it implicate us? This is simply the strengths, process and effort that you put into which are required to be as one to flourish. If both are willing to act as one, adjusting to one another’s desires and knowing how to adjust by its capability and able to teach each other to act as one, then that’s the sign that you will have a long-term successful relationship/marriage. Nevertheless, to be able to do that will take a lot of understanding, tasks, obligation and dedications that many
couples fail to accomplish these days. Below are some pointers that are doable to any couples.
Admit what you are doing wrong. Nobody is perfect in this world but excellence can be achieved and attained if you set consciousness around your self. It is not who gets bossy or who is right or wrong but it is about the adjustments and the process that needs to be worked out. You cannot say that they are always wrong and that you are always right. You must be open-minded and concentrate how you both can adjust because each one of you are different and not just one.
Always be fair. This is not just about you or them; it has to be balance for you and them. There are two of you, remember that. Bear in mind that it is always the “us” factor. Get along with your dissatisfaction but do not close your partners’ expectations, needs or wants. It is about respect and love that you need to go through a marriage or relationship. You must be open-minded and entirely be concerned about your partner. This is a vice-versa thing. If you are going to be self-centered, then that may just make your relationship vanish.
Communicate and work it out. Listen to your partner even she/he is a beast. Share both your inputs. It is all about sharing to each other forever. As we already know, marriage or a relationship often fails due to lack of communications. When lack of communication disappears, the lack of trust collapsed. Therefore, be honest, step back for a while and share what needs to be shared to your partner as one. This is the way to keep and establish that trust.
Always Compromise. Speak up and discuss things what you can compromise to your wife/husband or partner. Commit and give each other more actions for love. Talk sincerely without screaming or tears coming out from your eyes. Just be natural. Each of you should agree to do such things regularly. Discuss about your relationships and issues that’s going on around the both of you whether good or bad and figure out the root of the cause and make some plans to work it out, in addition learn to act on it. Stop blaming but instead look for solutions. Whether disagreement or dislike. You must learn to compromise. The process may take time, but that is the key to any commitment.
Do not judge. Be Optimistic and do not judge your partner all the time. This is important. This happens often times to people. Be different. This is your wife/husband or partner for life whom you be spending and living with in you life. Stop criticizing your partner for life. It does not do well anyway, instead talk things out or find solutions and ways to do better. Educate your self to accept each other’s failures. You may forget about it, minimize it but do not change them. Each one of you has different point of views, impression of personality, so understand how they are and learn to educate your self by taking action of the process. It is about how we think! Again, be open-minded and be mature, grow as much as you can and develop your mind. You are the one who decided to be with the person where you are now and made your bows, so stick to it, that you take them who they are and do not flip your head around and see them how they suppose to be in your fantasies since that will be painful for your wife/husband or partner which may make you feel guilty or uncomfortable. So set pride beside and do not complicate things!
Create enjoyable moments. However, when things are not constant, stressful, depressing, and tough and rough or are not the way you expect things to happen, those are times when you need to be strong, to let go of feelings for a moment. Skip it and let go of that bitterness, hurts, ego or pride. Try it you have nothing to lose. Moreover, that may be one other way to get along together to fix things up. Share some compliment, do some jokes, laugh a bit. Be positive, confidence and bring that momentum at the table. Get that excitements and express that moments. Do not take things for granted what ever you may posses. Do not make turn it into a problem. A simple happiness may relief relationships or marriage problems. Marriage and commitments does not have to be serious. There is no guideline where you need to follow how a great commitment marriage can be. You alone may plan your own principles as long as it is delightful and satisfying to you and your partner, it would not matter at all.
Never Ever leave your partner. Especially if you are married, never ever think about abandoning it. That is the least you wouldn’t even want to think about. You may be busy, you may have other things that is attached to you, but never ever leave your promises. Do not risk small quantity of what is already been more valuable and precious to you even you got distracted and found another attractive person in your life. It is much harder to find a new someone especially if you have to start investing in a new commitment again. Imagine, if someone is tries to play with you while you are engage, what makes you think he/she will not do that with someone else?It would not make any sense at this situation. The process on how you invested in love/commitment will remain the same. So what would you think that, engaging to a new relationship would make a difference when you are married or still committed? If you really adore and love someone from the deepest of your heart, nobody should get in your way. If you believe, you are secured about your partner that does not mean the heat will never come. It means, when the fire comes that you will be able to withstand it. Shouldn’t nothing else matter? You need your partner and should never ever leave your partner. Especially in worst scenarios. Both of you are supposed to be as one and act as one (to be able to tango), right? So must be able to keep your partner in your entire life. Don not take them for granted. Again, do NOT take them for granted. If you found the precious person in your life, grab and hold them and never ever let go. Never allow pain, ego and pride in everyday life get in the way for that. Never let anyone get to it. Everything can be done; it is all in your mind and capability to handle the process. It is all doable. Remember especially for those who are married. Your bond is for better or for worse, for richer or for poor, for sickness and in health.
Have Faith To God. All though this may not apply to some few of you out there, I would like to tell you that this is the most important category for me as he alone has bless me to have the wisdom to survive emotional pain I’ve had not just to personally be developed my growth but also my life in general. He has directed my current life situations including the courage that I have written to this article that you are now reading (See why God Uses problems here – more to that in my other article post). To have faith with God is simple if you its your will. The hardest part is having him centered in your life to lead and have control over your entire life (whether it’s about love, money, fame or so ever), but instead we just keep him aside. –And ask where he is when we needed him most.
Let me ask you this. Have you ever truly wanted to help somebody but you couldn’t? Have you ever experience to give more love to somebody who constantly rejects you? The answer is simple. Of course, you couldn’t because you have no control over others and sometimes to your self! This is because no one can give them what we don not have. I hope you got my point. When I understand who I was, and who He was, I knew I needed Him and I deeply believe so do you. You must be able to love your partner whether he or she deserves it or not. God loves you, despite the fact that you do not deserve it. Even if you keep rejecting him (do not believe in this faith for God) and not even saying grace, that you are still alive right now or have something to eat the next day. God sent Jesus to die for our sin, because He loves us. As for me, no one else can settle this for you. So have faith to God and pray all the time as couple if its possible as he is already expecting you. For all those couples and most to those who are married or planning to get married. Take note that marriage is a holy tradition established by God and one, which is really meant to last for life.
Commitment is a partnership-relationship. It takes two people to do whatever it is. It has to be an obviously one-sided view – as one, so to any commitment as well.
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